my roommate has this hilarious book called "he's just not that into you" and it's got chapters like:

he's just not that into you:

1. ...if he's not asking you out
2. ... if he's not calling you
3. ... if he's not dating you
4. ... if he's having sex with you
5. ... if he only wants to see you when he's drunk
6. ... if he's breaking up with you

and so on... I know this doesn't sound funny, but it's written with wit, i promise. It's full of the so-familiar stories that women tell where they only talk to some guy on weekends, or he's getting over a bad marriage and not ready to commit, or he doesn't want to ruin a friendship, or he has trouble with intimacy...

but it always ends up with "but i still really want to be with him/love him/believe he's right for me/know it's all going to work out"

They take these stories and translate them from a guy's perspective to: or maybe he's just not that into you

hmm.. it actually sounds kind of harsh when i describe it. but it's not!

[for example in "he doesn't call me when he says he will cause he's really busy" and the author's like,
"See, men know how to use the phone, and they like to talk to people who make them happy; maybe he's just not that into you"

okay. it is harsh. but it's an extension on my favorite Dan Savage Wishful Thinking Syndrome article where people put up with stuff they shouldn't and they justify it using an unrealistic dream of how it might be different later... and let's be honest, women are doing this because they have this deep-down fear that there isn't going to be someone else [argh! alone!] so they need to put up with these things, adjust, adapt. I want to give this book to so many people, but i'm not sure who won't punch me in the face when i hand them a book called "he's just not that into you".

11:33 p.m. - 2005-09-27